“ Trust that the universe is unfolding as it should. ” – Max Ehrmann
Have you heard the story of the Chinese farmer?
A farmer and his son had a beloved horse who helped the family earn a living. One day, the horse ran away and their neighbors exclaimed, “Your horse ran away, what terrible luck!” The farmer replied, “Maybe so, maybe not.”
A few days later, the horse returned home, leading a few wild horses back to the farm as well. The neighbors shouted out, “Your horse has returned, and brought several horses home with him. What great luck!” The farmer replied, “Maybe so, maybe not.”
Later that week, the farmer’s son was trying to break one of the horses and she threw him to the ground, breaking his leg. The neighbors cried, “Your son broke his leg, what terrible luck!” The farmer replied, “Maybe so, maybe not.”
A few weeks later, soldiers from the national army marched through town, recruiting all boys for the army. They did not take the farmer’s son, because he had a broken leg. The neighbors shouted, “Your boy is spared, what tremendous luck!” To which the farmer replied, “Maybe so, maybe not. We’ll see.”
Every moment just is. We can never really judge it.
You never know what the consequences of misfortune or good fortune will be, as only time will tell the whole story.
Things may look great at the start, but over time it may not become what you had imagined it to be. Similarly, you feel bad about something but some day it could be one of the best things that happened to you.
I can look back on so many difficult moments in my life from my down sizing in 2010 going from a 4500 square foot home to a 1700 square foot home to my struggling with being alone and getting divorced.
Yet, every struggle I’ve endured had a silver lining (I had way better neighbors in the new home) and every "success” has brought with it unintended problems (like having to be more sophisticated and complicating my previously “simple” life. )
Next time you start to complain or celebrate something in your life step back and think, “Maybe so, maybe not. We’ll see.”
“I’ve lived through some terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened.” - Mark Twain