“No matter how great the talent or efforts, some things just take time. You can’t produce a baby in one month by getting nine women pregnant.” -Warren Buffett
Literally, every time I speak with a coaching client they all say the same thing to me… They feel like they should be farther ahead than they are. I felt the same way in my land business, starting GeekPay, even looking at podcast downloads it just seems like after all this work I should be doing better than I am.
So when I started to read Oliver Burkeman’s book on productivity it just gave me such a sense of relief and a feeling of not being alone in my quest to be more, do more, and make sure I’m not squandering the little time I have on this earth.
Burkeman writes, “This strange moment in history, when time feels so unmoored, might in fact provide the ideal opportunity to reconsider our relationship with it. Older thinkers have faced these challenges before us, and when their wisdom is applied to the present day, certain truths grow more clearly apparent. Productivity is a trap. Becoming more efficient just makes you more rushed, and trying to clear the decks simply makes them fill up again faster. Nobody in the history of humanity has ever achieved “work-life balance,” whatever that might be, and you certainly won’t get there by copying the “six things successful people do before 7:00 a.m.” The day will never arrive when you finally have everything under control — when the flood of emails has been contained; when your to-do lists have stopped getting longer; when you’re meeting all your obligations at work and in your home life; when nobody’s angry with you for missing a deadline or dropping the ball; and when the fully optimized person you’ve become can turn, at long last, to the things life is really supposed to be about.
After reading this book I just felt way less anxious about my to-do list, my calendar slots, how I organized my day, and what I got accomplished before going to bed. Essentially the feeling of not doing or even being enough.
No longer do I feel guilty for not getting to inbox zero or the FOMO of missing the latest cool whatever is going on in my neck of the woods.
Burkeman calms me down by writing, "Denying reality never works, though. It may provide some immediate relief, because it allows you to go on thinking that at some point in the future you might, at last, feel totally in control. But it can’t ever bring the sense that you’re doing enough — that you are enough — because it defines “enough” as a kind of limitless control that no human can attain. Instead, the endless struggle leads to more anxiety and a less fulfilling life.
After reading this book I have a better perspective on how my endless wanting to feel in control is literally taking me away from the present moment. I love the cliche, we make plans and God laughs…
I have been raving about this book to everyone and as of today, it will be my most gifted book of 2022. Unfortunately, you have to wait for the paperback to come in August of 2022, but in the meantime, the audible version combined with the kindle is a great way to immerse yourself in this book that will just ground you back into the reality of life we are all so lucky to be living in.
"To live is so startlingly it leaves little time for anything else” -Emily Dickinson